The Procrastination Doom Loop– and How to Break It

Six takeaways:

  1. It is easy for productive people to confuse “reasonable delay” (“I’ll respond to this email when I have more time to write it”), which is reasonable and can be useful– vs actual procrastination (“I have time to do this but don’t feel like doing this right now.. I’ll do it later”) which can be an avoidable act of self-sabotage.
  2. New research on procrastination says that it happens for two basic reasons: 1) we delay action because we feel we are in the wrong mood to complete a task, and 2) We assume that that mood or condition will change in the near future. That a better, more fitting time to complete the task will soon arrive: “If I take a nap now, I’ll have more focus later.”
  3. This is where “The Procrastination Doom Loop” begins. Putting off an important task makes us feel anxious, guilty, and even ashamed. This anxiety, guilt, and shame make us less likely to have the emotional and cognitive energy to be productive. That makes us even less likely to begin the task, which in turn creates more guilt. The loop continues from there.
  4. One common procrastination cure is the use of deadlines, but studies show that self-imposed deadlines are incredibly weak barriers to procrastination and can only worsen the Doom Loop. Deadlines imposed by others (work, friends) are far more powerful.
  5. Procrastinators are more likely to complete a piece of work if they’re persuaded that it’s not actually work. In one study, students were asked to complete a puzzle, but first given a few minutes to play Tetris. To Group A, the researchers described the puzzle as a ‘cognitive evaluation.’ To Group B, they referred to the puzzle as a game. Procrastinators took far longer with their Tetris Games when the puzzle was referred to as an evaluation, rather than a game.
  6. See this graphic for a visual of the “Procrastination Doom Loop”:

From Derek Thompson at The Atlantic:
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Happiness is a Warm Coffee

Five takeaways:

  1. When caffeine is ingested it takes on a naturally occurring chemical called adenosine, which is produced throughout the day to help you eventually relax– the body’s message that bedtime is approaching.
  2. Caffeine disrupts adenosine receptors, effectively pushing the adenosine out of its parking spot in the brain. The jittery feeling you get from drinking a lot of coffee is a measure of how much your adenosine supply is disrupted.
  3. Caffeine naturally makes you happy: study after study shows that intake of caffeine leads to a “significant increase in … happiness and calmness and decreases in tenseness.”
  4. When viewed collectively, the macro effect of caffeine consumption is a boon to humanity. Writer Michael Pollan argues in his book Caffeine: How Coffee and Tea Created the Modern World that caffeine’s arrival to Europe in the 17th century led to booms in productivity, safety, and innovation: that it accelerated the formation of the world we know today.
  5. While too much of anything is never a positive thing, studies have shown that habitual coffee consumption can reduce all-cause mortality. It can also help autophagy, the natural process of cleaning out cellular trash, and it has been linked to reduced levels of fatty acid in the blood of aged mice, which has been linked to diabetes and cancer in humans.

From Arthur C. Brooks at The Atlantic:
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Nothing Drains You Like Mixed Emotions

Five takeaways:

  1. Well into the 20th Century, many psychologists believed that mixed emotions existed on a continuum. Which was to say: Researchers didn’t think you could feel good and bad at the same time. Evidence soon mounted that positive and negative emotions can co-exist, and often switch in and out of prevalence very quickly.
  2. Last year, a study by the Journal of Happiness Studies measured the relationship of wellbeing to positive, negative, and mixed emotion. The study showed that mixed emotions plummeted overall wellbeing far more than negative emotion.
  3. A commonly used “solution” to the pain of mixed emotions is to force oneself to view everything as either 100% positive or 100% negative. Scientists have found that this kind of “Dichotomous thinking” is unhealthy. They instead urge “Dialectical Thinking,” which boils down to viewing everything through the prism of acceptance: the knowledge that mixed emotions are natural and not a cause for alarm.
  4. To become more dialectical in your thinking, start by consciously acknowledging your conflicting feelings, as opposed to letting them battle away in your subconscious. Accept that life does not present itself in black and white. This will provide a sense of relief and control over decisions and emotions.
  5. Seeing the true complexity of relationships or decisions or experiences takes us beyond the superficial “great” or “horrible” descriptions that do more to confuse/frustrate us than to add any clarity to our lives. By embracing mixed emotions, we not only control them, we enable deeper understanding and experience.

From Arthur C. Brooks at The Atlantic:
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Marriage is a Team Sport, Not a Competition

Five takeaways:

  1. Competitiveness between spouses is a common cause of marital strife, but it can be overcome with the intentional adoption of a unified mentality as a couple over an “I” mentality as an individual within a partnership.
  2. Couples who view themselves as a component of a unique couple identity in which neither partner’s individual identity is dominant—tend to be better at coping with conflict. If the overarching view of the dynamic is unified, the divisiveness that arises in competitive feelings are more easily overcome.
  3. Since feelings of competitiveness are never going to be erased completely, a key tactic is to change just what kind of competition you allow yourself to pursue. If you take on competition as a couple, and include your partner in your goals, the effect on a relationship can be positive.
  4. Feelings of competitiveness are a prisoner’s dilemma. In a relationship driven by competition, both parties prioritize their self-interests, leading to mutual dissatisfaction and less-than-desirable outcomes. Conversely, when each partner makes individual sacrifices for the benefit of the relationship, both parties reap greater rewards.
  5. Three clear tactics couples can take to overcome feelings of competitiveness are:
    • More We, Less Me: To prioritize your partnership, make “we” the default pronoun when communicating with your partner and others. This can help reshape your attitude through the “As-If Principle,” allowing you to act as a team and make joint decisions for the benefit of both partners.
    • Put Money on Your Team: Pooling finances in a relationship can improve happiness and relationship longevity, even if partners have different spending habits, due to practical spending habits that emerge when resources are combined.
    • Treat your Fights Like Exercise: An argument can be stressful, but it can be channeled productively when viewed as an opportunity to solve a problem collaboratively, which strengthens the relationship.

From Arthur C. Brooks at The Atlantic:
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