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Four takeaways:

It is natural to react negatively to criticism, especially when it feels like “destructive” feedback rather than “constructive” commentary clearly meant to help you. But to allow your emotional response to criticism to overshadow the opportunity for improvement it offers is both unproductive and detrimental.

The only way to flourish amid negative criticism, and despite it, is to adopt new habits of both getting and giving it. Here are some research backed tactics for doing just that:

1. It’s not personal (even when it’s personal): When criticized, we often jump to consider it a judgment on our inherent abilities, rather than on our performance. Remember to assess criticism at face value, looking at it as separate from a direct statement on your worth. “Depersonalize” it. View feedback objectively and analytically, focusing on the content rather than taking it as a personal attack.
2. Treat criticism like insider information: By depersonalizing criticism, you can see it as a valuable insight into how others view your performance and an opportunity to improve. This turns the opinion of others into key learnings. When you empower others to criticize your performance, it becomes less painful when they do, leading to rapid improvement and a reduced fear of critics.
3. Make criticism a gift, never a weapon: This is a reminder about giving criticism well. In criticizing another, remember the gift/weapon rule: “If I am criticizing to help, I am doing it right; if I am doing it to harm, I am doing it wrong.” Criticize with the care of the recipient in mind; be respectful in delivery; be conscious of your own good intentions; provide a pathway to improvement; and targeting of the recipient’s needs appropriately.
4. “Praise in public, criticize in private”: This is a quote from legendary coach Vince Lombardi, whose instincts were correct: A 2014 study found that publicly given positive feedback was 9% more motivating for students, whereas privately given negative feedback was 11% more motivating than when given publicly.

With these practical tips on board, we hope you can embrace the power of both giving and receiving negative feedback. A healthy relationship to criticism will foster improvement and, over time, enhance your wellbeing.

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Four takeaways:

Accepting that you are not perfect– and that no one else is either– is key to opening yourself to the possibility of improving yourself and your life.

Research shows that humans have a tendency to overrate their own qualities and abilities in relation to others. We tend to think we’re better drivers than most everyone else, for instance. This is called “Self-enhancement bias,” and while it can make us feel secure in our abilities/traits– it is not a path to longterm growth or happiness.

For instance, a Journal of Personality and Social Psychology study showed that when college students held an inflated view of their own academic ability, it enhanced their mood and positive affect—that is, they enjoyed happier feelings. But the illusion of superiority did not translate into better academic performance overall.

We face a dilemma: while we aim to uplift ourselves and others, self-enhancement offers only a fleeting relief with potentially lasting negative effects. Here are four healthier and more accurate things to tell ourselves and others:

1. You’re not perfect, but you’re normal: Imperfection is normal, and admitting it to yourself is healthy. If you never felt sad or inadequate, that would be pretty good evidence that something is wrong with you.
2. Accept yourself: Treat yourself with compassion; acknowledge your shortcomings without judgement. This makes them easier to start improving upon.
3. Work to improve: To acknowledge that “I am flawed in this way right now” is not to say “I will always have this flaw.” Self-acceptance is the basis of the pursuit of improvement.
4. Resist blaming others: Research shows that people with poor emotional self-regulation often blame others for their shortcomings. While this delusion may temporarily alleviate negative feelings, scholars advise that taking responsibility for one’s decisions is a more effective long-term strategy for managing negative emotion.

To be truly perfect would cost you a chance to improve- and that would make for a boring, purposeless life!

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Takeaways:

It is easy, in the modern workplace, to get overwhelmed with emails, meetings, and constant interruptions. While we feel busier than ever, these constant demands on our attention can lead to mental and physical exhaustion with little sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. The paradox: in an effort to do more, we end up doing less.

The solution is to “Do Less to Do More.” To actively eliminate unnecessary activity and intentionally shut out the common drains on your attention that keep you from crossing hte finish line on your most important goals. In short: “eliminate the bullsh*t” from your day to day.

Be conscious of spending time on activities that add value to oneself and others. Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius wrote, “[M]ost of what we say and do is not essential. Eliminate it, you’ll have more time and more tranquility. Ask yourself, is this necessary.”

The advice might seem obvious, but workers often resist being unconventional or different in their approaches, not wanting to ruffle feathers by being unresponsive or uncooperative. However, if you follow what everyone else does, you’ll only achieve the same results.

For better outcomes, it is crucial to adopt more efficient and effective approaches– even if your new methods are unconventional.

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Five takeaways:

A company’s leadership builds its culture, and the most effective leaders consciously model the values of their organizations through their actions and relationships with their teams. These five habits are worth cultivating and sharpening to make sure your leadership fosters the best possible atmosphere & action within the groups you lead.

1. Lead with Empathy: Support your employees by being an active listener and then giving them diligent updates as to how you are taking their thoughts on workplace experience and progress into account. Be present with them, with 1-1 Zooms or in person meetings, and in all interactions show them that you take their concerns & thoughts seriously.
2. Embrace Change: The best leaders are not content with standing still. Leaders who invest in adopting new technology set themselves apart as forward-thinking, making it easier to attract and retain great talent. Get employees involved in the change, by encouraging them to experiment and report on experiences with customers or tools.
3. Act as a Mentor: Effective leaders mentor their team, and actively support their growth. Identify skills your team needs to develop, and actively provide support or resources for cultivating those skills. Active mentorship can help you identify talent that is ripe for promotion.
4. Welcome Different Views: Consensus can be a dangerous thing; the happiest employees feel comfortable speaking up when they have an issue. A good leader fosters open communication, and does not take criticism personally. They seek out second opinions among their employees.
5. Encourage age-diverse hires: Right now there are four generations prevalent in American workplaces; each of them bring distinct & innate strengths. 89% of talent professionals surveyed say that a multigenerational workforce makes a company more successful. Make sure that employees from different generations interact and learn from each other.

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